Are you tired of looking in the mirror and believing that you are not beautiful enough? Wishing you were more beautiful? Picking on all the things that you want to be different? The wrinkles, the scar, the freckles, your teeth, your lips, love handles, tummy, legs…the list goes on.
Do you feel your self worth plummet when you compare your hair, legs, eyes, bum… with your work colleague, friend, magazine image or stranger walking down the street?
“If only my bum looked like hers…then I’d be happier…“
If you counted all the times in a day that you put yourself down in some way, both in your head and verbally, you might get a fright! Do these actions make you feel good about yourself? Feel beautiful?
I dare say the answer is NO.
The following tips are not suddenly going to give you the ‘perfect’ shaped lips or the body that the media tells you you ‘should’ have. However, if you practice them, I can guarantee (from personal experience) that they will increase the amount that you love and accept yourself. And with increased self love comes increased beauty.
3 simple steps to feeling more beautiful:
1. Mirror mirror on the wall…
Every morning when you get up, head over to your mirror and greet yourself. You can say something like good morning [your name], you are beautiful, or good morning beautiful/gorgeous, and then smile at yourself. Or if that feels too hard you could start with a simple good morning and a smile. An acknowledgment of yourself without any criticisms. Let your focus move away from the bed hair, the puffy eyes or a pimple…
2. Comparison is the thief of joy…
Throughout the day, whether online, looking through a magazine, people watching, catching up with friends…notice every time that you compare yourself with others. Try your hardest for the next week to catch yourself every time a comparing thought pops into your head or comparing words want to come out of your mouth. They don’t serve you. Comparison is reinforcing that you believe you are not good enough, not beautiful enough.
When you begin to let comparison go, and instead love yourself for who you are, you will feel an increased lightness in your step and you will feel more worthy. More beautiful.
3. Be gentle with yourself, you are a child of the universe…
As Max Ehrmann says – you have a right to be here. You are worthy of your own love right here and now. Don’t put off self love until you’ve lost those 5kgs or saved x amount of money or started running 5 days a week or got your skin looking flawless. Now is the time for self love. Now is the time to realise you are beautiful just as you are, because you are worthy. Just as a child struggles to flourish without love and encouragement, so do you.
We cannot flourish when we are constantly beating ourselves up. So this week, try to choose kindness instead. You may easily think up all the things you can pick on. This is a habit. Start today by retraining your mind. Create another habit where you keep looking out for all the things you’ve done well, for all the good aspects of your body…
No, it’s not necessarily going to be easy. We’ve spent years forming this habit of criticising ourselves, so it’s going to need a bit of conscious effort to change. However you can start today by consciously creating that new habit of kindness. You’ll be surprised at how much more beautiful you feel when you gift yourself with what you deserve…love, kindness, gentleness.
When you begin to increase the love you give to yourself, you become more beautiful, both inside and out.
If you meet someone who has a high level of genuine self love, they radiate beauty. Their smile is bigger and brighter, their eyes have an extra shine and you get the sense that they are completely at home in their own skin.
It doesn’t mean that loving yourself is going to remove wrinkles, or take away that scar that you think makes you look ugly. It means that loving yourself makes you realise that you don’t actually have to change anything in that moment to be beautiful. Physiological changes can happen simply by the chemical reactions that occur when you are happier in yourself…skin tone improves, hormones can become more balanced, body shapes can change and overall health can improve.
I’ve been down the road of self-loathing, beating myself up, wanting to change what I see in the mirror. It only ever brought with it dissatisfaction and sadness. For the last few years I’ve been practicing self love. I’ve been working on changing habits and becoming kinder to myself.
I’m not suddenly magically cured of comparing myself or finding flaws in the mirror. What I do have though is this beautiful gentleness with myself that I never had before. To be able to catch my eye in the mirror and say hello gorgeous and then smile, can improve overwhelm or frustration and make me feel more beautiful in an instant.
Give it a go, what have you got to lose?
- Greet yourself in the mirror each morning with words that feel comfortable to you.
- Quit comparing yourself to others.
- Be gentle and kind to yourself – work on creating a new habit of gentleness rather than criticism.
I would love to hear how it goes for you. Please share with me so that I can cheer you on and remind you how awesome you are!
PS: Nourishing your physical body is all part of self love and feeling more beautiful! So think delicious healthy nutrients on the inside and natural skin care products for your beautiful skin on the outside 🙂