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Let’s Reflect on 2017 & Get Ready for 2018!

Taking time to reflect on 2017 is such an important part of stepping into 2018 with more clarity, calm and freedom. If you don’t take the time to acknowledge things that have been, you may drag excess clutter into the year ahead. It’s best to start as fresh as you can with what’s going on in your life at this time.

1. Stop and Reflect

When you stop and reflect on your successes for the year, it allows you to really let them sink in. It creates the space to celebrate what you achieved instead of jumping straight onto the ‘next goal’, the ‘next vision’.

Too often we don’t give ourselves enough credit. This pause is a place where you can pour some encouragement, praise and acknowledgement on yourself, instead of focussing on where it is that you haven’t yet got to. This is powerful. This simple practice deepens self worth.

2. Acknowledge Disappointments

It’s also important to acknowledge the things that surprised or disappointed us. If you pretend that these things didn’t happen, or that they didn’t really affect you (when deep down they did), it comes with you into the new year. However, if you give them a voice, write them down and then let them go in whatever way works, you move forward lighter. You could journal them out and burn the notes, write on the sand, talk to someone, or shout them into the ocean.

3. Wisdom from 2017

When you use this pause to reflect on 2017 and what wisdom you gained, from both the successes and the disappointments, it gives you the room to step into 2018 wiser. This simple process empowers you with new insights, perspectives and beliefs. So instead of beating yourself up for the things you said you would do but didn’t, take this time to practice compassion and re-assessing from a place of gentleness how you could do it differently in 2018.

Why is this relevant to Bee Sensual and skincare?

Our state of mind and stress levels affect our health. If our health is out of balance, our skin can suffer. When you are feeling frazzled and running around trying to do as much as you can before the end of the year, and then beating yourself up for the things you didn’t do, it’s easier to slip into choices that don’t serve your health.

Some people may drink more, sleep less, eat more junk food, be running on adrenaline and depleting their adrenals, you name it!

So tasty 😉

Personally if I don’t take a pause and create space for myself (not just at the end of the year), I end up eating more toast than thoughtfully prepared meals. Sure, it’s gluten free and sourdough, but let’s be honest, toast alone (well with peanut butter) is not the builder of vibrant health! How do your choices slip when you’re feeling frazzled.

So how do you create space for a pause to reflect on 2017?

First you have to prioritise it. You need to decide that it’s important to you and your well-being and then write it into your diary. Don’t find other ‘more pressing’ things to do when that time rolls around. This stuff matters! Imagine if you could step into 2018 feeling a little calmer and more inspired for the year ahead.

Even if you really believe that you can’t spare much time for this, give yourself even ten minutes. Shut your bedroom or office door, put some nice background music on, or have relaxing essential oils and jot down short points on a piece of paper.

Here are three questions you can ask yourself, to help step into 2018 feeling more empowered and in alignment with what matters:

  1. What situations, ways of being or feelings am I choosing to release and leave in 2017?
  2. What 5 words would I like to use to describe the person I want to step into 2018 as?
  3. What lessons, wisdom, insights, or qualities are important to me to take into 2018?

These questions are inspired by my self-love teacher, Christine Arylo and her end of year reflection ritual. You can find it here. This stuff is simple, yet powerful, if you carve out the time to actually do it. I have been doing this reflection for a number of years now. I give myself a few weeks to really create a vision for what I would like in the year ahead as well. It’s really helped me get clear, and often on reflection I am surprised by how, for example, the word I choose for the year is just what I needed. This year it was Loving Surrender, which enabled me to do a lot of what I did this year!

I will be doing this for myself in the next few weeks. If you choose to reflect on 2017 in any way that works for you, please share some of your insights with me.

Sending waves of calm, peace and joy to your beautiful self at this time.

Remember you are enough!
You are unique!
You are beautiful as the unique and wonderful human being that you are.

xx

PS: If you choose to write goals/intentions, please set them from a place of inspiration rather than guilt. When you set a resolution from a place of ‘should’, you set yourself up for stress and disappointment. If you would like guidance in this process, flick me an email 🙂

 

 

 

Are Bee Sensual products anti-aging?

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Who or what are you comparing yourself with when you say…

“I’ll pay anything for the word anti-aging on a cosmetic container.”

“I don’t want to age!”

“I hate wrinkles, they make me look so old!”

Is it a photo-shopped image in a magazine or online?

One thing Bee Sensual won’t have on its label is the word anti-aging, because instead of creating a fear of aging, I want our products to inspire those who use them to embrace themselves exactly as they are without wanting more and without comparing themselves to an idea of what they ‘should’ look like. I want our products to create a sense of self-love.

Here’s my opinion on anti-aging:

1)  Focusing our energy on what we don’t want and what we are fearing will only make us less satisfied with the many things our body and skin do for us. Do you really want to look 25 when you’re 55 anyway?

I know I don’t. I have however also been trained to want blemish free skin, so of course part of me would prefer smooth, even skin…but worrying about it and stressing about making it happen…that’s going to make my skin ‘age’ through stress. Instead I work on embracing those freckles, those lines, those scars…

Do you look at these wrinkles and think that they're ugly or 'less than'?

Do you look at these wrinkles and think that they’re ugly or ‘less than’?

As a society I think we often place happiness outside of ourselves. If only my skin looked smoother…lighter…darker, then I’d feel happy in my own skin. If only I didn’t have those bumps on my hips, then I’d be able to love myself and feel happy in my body. As long as we’re basing our happiness and value on these external things there will be something missing. We will always find something that isn’t perfect and needs fixing.

I believe the key is to shift our focus, slowly and gently, to what we love or like about ourselves. Just ask a friend or partner or family member to list your great qualities. No doubt that will be an easy job for them. These wonderful qualities will not fade with time, they will only become more vibrant and glowing.

Also focus on what you love about your body. If I talk more about that though this blog will be pages and pages long 😉

For a beautiful perspective on growing older without aging, head over to Christiane Northrup’s website for a library of talks and inspiration.

2) Do you really believe that a cream you use topically can magically make you look 25?

Again, I don’t! I believe that your skin is a reflection of your inner physical and emotional health. If we fill our days with mental stress and negative self-talk, drink lots of soft drinks or energy drinks, eat food on the go, eat processed food and wind down with bottles of wine…what are our organs going to think, and then how is our skin going to reflect this?

To be honest I think the most damaging to our body is the mental chit-chat that goes on. If you want to know about all the incredible things that happen in your body when you stress yourself out, read Dr Libby’s work here.

Here’s where sensuality and mindfulness can work wonders. I know your day is busy. I understand that you’ve got 350 million things to juggle. I know you don’t have time for morning meditations and nightly yoga. I get it, I promise! What you do have time for though is drinking a glass of water and washing your hands.

So, how about you connect those activities (and others if you choose) with a healthy dose of mindfulness? As you drink that glass of water, feel it…taste it…notice all the sensations in those moments. If your mind wonders just bring your attention back to that glass of water. As you’re washing your hands, look in the mirror and find one tiny thing (more if you can) about yourself to be thankful for…maybe it’s your smile, maybe it’s a little freckle that you love, or maybe it’s that you’ve got your favourite lipstick on today that makes you feel happy inside 🙂

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If you’re on the hunt for anti-aging, see if you can go out and just embrace you for you. Try not to compare yourself to others, and when you do, be gentle with yourself.

You are beautiful!

I know that for sure, and I’m always here to support you on your journey as you come to realise that you truly are 🙂

Aroha,

Kali

 

 

 

 

 

Taking a moment to be present…

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Time to just be present

There are always long lists of to-dos and ‘shoulds’ and ‘coulds’, but today’s Saturday and it’s pouring with rain outside. I decided to give myself a little bit of time out on the couch. Millie is curled at my feet. I had just baked some gluten free bread while listening to an amazing talk by Anita Moorjani, on her near death experience and how loving ourselves is the most important thing. I felt it was time to put down my phone, tuck my feet under Millie for some extra warmth and then just be present.

It’s quite delicious when we make that decision to give ourselves permission to simply be present in that moment. No thinking about ‘what next’. No brain busy with a million lists and scoldings…instead mindfulness and being wholly present in that moment. I don’t find myself doing this often enough. To be present brings with it a beautiful sense of calm, because there is no space for your brain to monkey around and jump from one task to the next. You’re right here in that moment, with a sense of peace…

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Presence in what’s around us

What caught my attention first was the rain drops running down the ranch slider. They’d land, like crystal balls, join with more droplets and then run down the pane. Their tops reflected the green from the metal and the bottoms were clear, each creating a half moon affect. It was quite mesmerising and I felt so peaceful and relaxed (you should try it 🙂 ).

Do you find that you spend most of your time hounding yourself to do certain things? To complete certain tasks?

Does that stress you out? Feeling like no matter how much you do, it’s never all going to get done?

In these moments, see whether taking a deep breath in through the nose and slowly releasing it out the mouth helps. Try doing that 3 times. Feel the sensations of the breath in your nostrils, your lungs expanding, the air over your lips. Feel your body relaxing ever so slightly.

Take notice of the room around you, the smells in the air, the sounds coming your way. Feel that moment right here and now. Give yourself permission to stop, even if only for a few seconds, nourish yourself and reset.

If you allowed yourself, just for a minute to be present and let go of all those busy thoughts, what could you give yourself permission to do right now that would nourish you?